No Control · Wednesday May 16, 2007 by Abbie
We had a good read this morning, both in bed and after breakfast while Ram was Legoing. I told him that we could take a photo of the huge base that he has build to put on the blog, but it is a work in progress and it is never finished, so I am not sure we are going to be able to!
After an early lunch we went to the new home ed meeting. This one is mainly for the older children and they decided to bring the Warhammar things alone.
I also told Ram that I wouldn’t be helping to organise it so that I could give all my attention to him. As we drove into the car park he saw three families with younger children all playing outside. He immediately became stressed and asked why they were there. I explained that they also wanted to come but that they would be staying out of our way.
We got inside and he was very clingy at first. The other parents and I were worried that he wouldn’t be happy. But as there were only 6 of the older boys, and they put the room divider up to separate them from the other children, Ram slowly become more happy and joined in a bit.
He also went and played with stickle bricks though! I think he was a bit bored with the time it took to set things up.
He did let me have a chat with the other parents which was really nice for me. By the end of the time he had had enough, but we discussed how it went on the way home and it seems that he doesn’t want to go to the main session any more, but only this quieter one, and he would like some Warhammar figurers of his own to play with!
He doesn’t want to paint them, so I am hoping that I can buy some on ebay. I hope they are not too expensive! I will also have to learn a lot about them. I need the idiots guide for parents for war games! He said that he wants me to have my own set so that he can practice against me so that he knows what to do next month!
We got home just in time for Blue Peter, then after supper Ram decided to watch one of the Discworld videos we have. We only have part one of it so I am going to have to try to get hold of the second part. I find that watching a dramatisation along side reading the book leads to many more educational opportunities. We can discuss different people’s interpretation about things and whether they are right or wrong.
We then watched the final episode of How the Other Half Learn. While we were doing that Ram managed to start another pot holder. We are going to have them coming out of our ears soon! But he does enjoy doing them and it does calm him down.
After that he decided he wanted to watch Natural World because it was about training dogs. He only just remembers our other dog Donington who died a few years ago now, but Donington was a very cleaver dog and some of the things they talked about in the programme were similar to the problems we had with Donington. We had a really good laugh about it!
Because we were later to bed than usual, I didn’t manage to read for very long before I fell asleep. I would have been able to read for longer if Ram didn’t take so long cleaning his teeth. It isn’t as if the toothbrush is in his mouth for very long. He just has to talk so much. We even had some tears because he suggested in a round about way that men didn’t really need women. I don’t think he really meant it like that, but when I said that if he did think like that he would have very many friends, he started to cry, without really understanding why. He gets upset when his ‘eyes water’. I think he has these strong emotions but can’t put them into words and that makes him feel as if he has no control over them.
A bit like me when I am reading in bed to him at night. I have no control over when I fall asleep. I just keep reading only what I read no longer makes any sense, so Ram tells me I can give up and turn the light off!
